WHEN WOMEN BECAME THE POT. By Awadifo Olga Kili.
Mar 31, 2026
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Awadifo Olga Kili: Legal Scholar, Poet, Author, Lawyer, Advocate for transitional justice.
The village of Ogwal Pader did not fall in a day.
It fell the way an old calabash cracks, quietly at first, a hairline fracture no one notices, until one morning it can no longer hold water. And when it finally splits, people do not ask when it broke; they ask how long it had been breaking.
Ogwal Pader lay between two tired rivers, Awere and Pager, their waters once fat with fish, now reduced to thin, whispering veins. The land remembered abundance, but memory, like an old storyteller, could not feed the living.
When the custodians of order withdrew, no announcement, no ceremony, only absence, it was as though the spine of the village had been quietly removed. The chief, Rwot Okidi, no longer sat beneath the tamarind tree where judgments had once carried the firmness of ancestral echo. The police post grew a beard of weeds. The health center became a shrine of expired medicine bottles.
And the men went where men go when the earth becomes too hot for bare feet. Some followed the war like moths chasing a dangerous light. Others dissolved into the cities, swallowed whole by their indifferent stomachs. A few remained, but their eyes had taken on the color of retreat.
What remained, like the stubborn drumbeat beneath a collapsing song, were the women.
Nyeko Alobo was not born to lead.
She was born during a season of rain so heavy that the midwife said this child has come riding thunder; she will either break or carry the sky. Her mother laughed then, because prophecy is cheap when the granary is full.
But the granaries were no longer full.
Nyeko’s compound stood at the edge of Ogwal Pader, where the bush pressed forward in its slow argument with human settlement. Her hut leaned slightly, like a tired elder listening more than speaking. Inside, three children slept on papyrus mats, their ribs writing quiet poems against their skin.
On the morning the market died, Nyeko did not go.
She had already understood what others were only beginning to sense, that the collapse of a system does not begin with explosions, but with hesitation. Women had begun to arrive late. Traders came with less. Voices lowered themselves, as though afraid of being overheard by fate.
Instead, Nyeko walked to the compound of Mama Aber Lanyero, the oldest woman in Ogwal Pader, a woman whose back had bent but whose mind stood upright like an iroko tree.
Mama Aber did not greet her.
You have come because you have seen it, she said, without lifting her eyes from the grinding stone.
Nyeko nodded.
The pot has cracked, she replied.
Mama Aber’s hands stilled. The silence between them thickened, as if even the air needed to sit down.
Then we must become the pot, Mama Aber said.
It began that way, not with a meeting, but with a recognition.
Soon, other women came. Ayaa, whose husband had not returned from the northern front. One who could measure grain with her eyes more accurately than any scale. Another whose laughter had once been loud but now came in careful fragments.
They did not sit in a circle, as chiefs do when they wish to be seen.
They sat like women, side by side, bodies inclined toward work, hands busy even as their minds wove strategy.
Food was the first war.
Who has cassava, Nyeko asked.
Who has children, came the reply.
That was how the accounting was done, not by possession, but by need.
In Ogwal Pader, a new arithmetic emerged. It was unwritten, yet exact. Three handfuls of millet from one home became porridge for five children elsewhere. A hidden sack of sorghum was divided not equally, but justly, because equality is a lazy form of fairness, Mama Aber would say.
If two goats are tethered to the same post, one will still eat more if its rope is longer.
So they shortened ropes where they were too long and lengthened them where they were too short.
Those who resisted found themselves standing alone in a place where survival had become a collective verb.
Security changed its face.
The men with guns passed through Ogwal Pader like locusts, never staying long enough to plant, always long enough to consume. They spoke of protection, but their protection had teeth.
It was one of the women who began to map danger.
Not on paper, for paper had become a luxury of another world, but in memory. She knew which footpaths curved too close to the rebel routes. She knew the smell of approaching soldiers, the way dust rose differently under boots than under bare feet.
At dusk, she would stand at the edge of the village, her figure drawn thin against the dying sun.
Not tonight, she would say, turning women back from certain paths.
How do you know, they would ask.
The wind has told me.
But it was not the wind. It was a literacy of survival, a reading of the world so intimate it bordered on prophecy.
Children became the second frontier.
Without schools, time threatened to become an empty vessel, easily filled with fear. So one woman claimed the old baobab tree near the dried well.
This will be our school, she said.
With what books, someone asked.
She smiled, though it trembled at the edges.
With memory.
Each afternoon, the children gathered. They learned the stories of Labongo and Gipir, of separation and return, of brothers divided by water and reconciled by wisdom. They learned proverbs that carried more weight than textbooks.
A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it to feel its warmth.
They repeated the words, not yet understanding, but storing them like seed.
They learned counting through shared grain, history through scars, geography through the mapping of safe and unsafe paths. Education became not preparation for life, but life itself.
Conflict came, as it always does when hunger sharpens its teeth.
One evening, two women stood before Mama Aber, their voices raised like dueling drums.
You took more than your share, one said.
And you hide yours like a snake hides eggs, the other replied.
The crowd gathered, not out of curiosity, but necessity. In a place without courts, every quarrel threatened to widen the crack in the fragile vessel they had become.
Mama Aber listened, her eyes half closed, as though consulting something older than speech.
When they finished, she spoke slowly.
When two yams fight in the soil, it is the earth that suffers.
They fell silent.
You are both right, she continued, and you are both wrong. Hunger has made you forget that the hand that gives is also the hand that receives.
She turned to Nyeko.
How much remains.
Nyeko answered.
Mama Aber divided it, not equally, but wisely. One would cook for both households the next day. The other would fetch water for the children.
You will serve each other, she said. And in serving, you will remember that you are not enemies, but extensions.
The quarrel loosened its grip, not completely, for nothing ever does, but enough for life to continue.
As the months passed, Ogwal Pader did not recover.
It transformed.
What had once been a village governed by visible authority became a living organism sustained by invisible threads. The women were those threads, binding, adjusting, holding.
Nyeko found herself at the center of it, though she never claimed it.
One evening, as the sky bled into darkness, a woman sat beside her.
You have become like the rwot, she said.
Nyeko shook her head.
No, she replied. The rwot sat above. I sit among.
The woman considered this.
Then perhaps, she said, this is a better kind of sitting.
But leadership, like fire, consumes even as it gives light.
Nyeko’s body began to carry the weight. Her feet cracked from long distances. Her eyes lost sleep. Sometimes, in the quiet hour before dawn, she felt a fear she could not name, not of death, but of failing those who now leaned on her.
One night, she went to Mama Aber.
I am tired, she said.
Mama Aber looked at her, not with pity, but with recognition.
Of course you are, she said. Even the river grows weary of its own journey.
Then what do I do.
Mama Aber’s voice softened.
You rest. And you remember, you are not the river alone. You are part of it.
The rains returned, as they always do, though never when expected.
The first drops fell hesitantly, like strangers asking permission. Then they came in earnest, drumming on roofs, soaking into the earth, waking seeds that had waited in patient silence.
Ogwal Pader stirred.
Not with celebration, but with a quiet, cautious hope.
The system that had collapsed did not return in the form it once had. What returned instead was something less visible, yet more enduring.
A way of holding each other when nothing else held.
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