The pains of Singlemoms

I would love to ask- Is it a sign of irresponsibility to be a single mother?🤔

Am writing this publication because Agwammawomen vision also focus on empowering our Single moms, not just in Africa but wherever life and fate takes our Team.

Being an Africa i can tell various times i have seen African Single moms struggling to be accepted in their various careers/business places, rural communities, leadership positions, politixal appointments and even in our religious communities too.

You might think the religious community will make it easier when they encounter Singlemoms but lets face it, they segregate them more. They see singlemothers as women who enjoy sleeping with different men instead of settling down in marriage with one man. Same perception too from our cultural societies.

That brings us to why do women chose to be single? Is it by choice? Circumstances? or What exactly?

You see if our cultures and work places can take time to actually analyze why a woman is single, they won't pass such ugly judgments on single moms around them.

Let me slow down here. Several women chose to be single moms due to different reasons and circumstances so before anyone starts throwing rotten eggs at them, it is wise to first find out why single moms around you chose to be single.

Now coming to our fellow women being the greatest supporter of such single moms around them; i ask- how do you treat single mothers around your residency, office, business areas, churches, mosques, and families?

As a woman, do you actually think your fellow woman would actually grow up without any reasons whatsoever, and decides to just be making babies from different men? Does this even sound enjoyable and pleasant? I don't think so!!

That's why Agwammawomen included them in our organization's vision because being a single mom isn't a pleasurable experience!! NADA!! NO!!

I personally feel hurt seeing them struggle doing the job which a husband, father would have done easily. She does her own as a mother, and also does the father's which am not going to list here but am sure we all know the importance of fathers at home.

Have you ever monitored a singlemom trying to discipline her teenage son(s)? Maybe you will understand their pains. How about providing shelter, Education, food, for child (children)?

So we the women should always resist the urge to judge our fellow sisters who are singlemoms or join the society to segregate them because they are not married.

When a single mom deserves and qualifies for a promotion or executive position and is being denied, the fellow women at that establishment should protest. Yes, okay what if we get fired?

No damn way!! , if you have one mind and organize your protest meaningfully, you won't get sacked. No organization will fire you for defending your human rights.

If you are in a cultural setting where a single mother is denied of proper recognition and benefits she deserves, fellow women in that community should politely speak up and defend her.

What most women don't understand is that, men appreciate women with intelligence, courage, and eloquence. They will not tell you this to your face but at your back they will appreciate your courage to speak out.

So dear Sisters, let's stop passing the buck to men when it comes supporting each other. Let's rally together and fight for each other's welfare despite our culture, geographical locations, religion, social status. 💌