Extroverts have no respect for introverts, and I am fucking sick of the double standards!

This is probably off topic but I need to discuss it anyway. It seems as if introverts (especially women) are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. It’s not uncommon to hear a bunch of loudmouths complain about how much they hate indecisive people. What’s worse is that they get supported without taking any consideration over what it’s actually like to have indecisiveness. They act like people who are indecisive “deserve to get shit on” because they apparently are harming others.

Here are some examples of the introvert hatred:

”Nothing is worse than waiting on indecisive people. I'll take assholes and cheapskates over them every day if it means we at least get to the fuckin point. Indecisive people have this succubus-like quality to hold you emotionally and spiritually hostage.

So enter one such energy vampyr with a few friends. Everyone is quick to order drinks, but she starts hemming and hawing. She says she wants tea but not sure what flavor, so I bring over some hot water and start listing them off. Not good enough. "Jasmine Green Tea? Is it very caffeinated?" Oh brother. Now she wants to know the brands and see the tea boxes.

With pleasure. I walk her over to the tea shelf and instruct her to grab whichever bag she wants. She starts to ask me another question, but I slink off to take care of more pressing shit.

She corners another server and peppers her with a bunch of dumb questions. Eventually, she makes up her mind on Earl Grey. My coworker comes to me in shock, "I just clocked in. I was not ready for that."

I see this neurotic mess gesticulating wildly as she and her friends are looking over the menu. I stupidly walk over and ask if they have any questions, and boy does she ever. She can't decide what she wants, what goes with what, what sides can change with who, etc. Fuckin Willy Wonka. I tell them I'll give them more time.

So first all the friends close their menus to signal they're ready to order. Ms. Indecisive is still open, and she's still not ready. This goes on for another 15 minutes. Eventually, the menus are stacked, and some of the friends are starting to look hangry. It eventually takes me pressing on her to make up her mind. "Go with your first instinct! You said you wanted the quiche, take it!" etc.

She finally orders. Everyone looks relieved. "What kind of toast did you want?"

She runs her hands through her hair. "Oh no, the toast... I forgot about the toast."

"Come on, we're almost there," I say, growing frustrated.

She laughs nervously, "Oh, you must hate people like me."

"Oh, you're killin it, top 95%-tile!" I say with a smile. Get a chuckle out of the table, but she eventually makes up her mind.

But holy hell, that shit is like pulling teeth. Please make up your fuckin minds. This is brunch, not the Geneva Conventions.

Hate it when people suck up your time and attention with their neuroticism. Only thing worse is people who call into a restaurant to order takeout without a menu. "So what do you have?" Clearly less free time than it would take for you to look up the menu online.”

”Indecisiveness can become annoying

Decision making is a skill. It is an acquired art and it comes from our experiences. When it’s ok to be indecisive sometimes, it’s not ok to be annoying.

I am a very patience person. I have a very high threshold to bullshit but once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. It’s ok to ask, rather than doing the wrong thing, it’s ok to ask for opinion.

And here comes the but.

But if you are not going to listen to other people, then don’t bother asking. If all you want is someone to agree with you, just tell us what you think and carry on with it.

Honestly speaking, there’s no wrong decision. There’s just always road not taken. Then regret comes. Then the ‘I should have listened to you’ comes along. And then yea, usually the cycle repeats itself. And yea, it’s annoying. It’s very annoying.

Some people are born to be indecisive. I get it. But don’t be annoying. If someone has decided to help you or to make a decision for you, do not, I repeat DO NOT comment. Or even try to say anything about it.

We are not doing it out of kindness. We just hate indecisiveness and we hate to be wishy washy. If a decision only takes 5minutes or less, but the process takes up a whole lot of our time, we will just do it. We don’t like wasting time. We have a lot more on our plates than listening to you, whining about to do or not to do?

Also, instead of going, isn’t this going to cause this. Or isn’t that going to happen, just let us be. We hate saying it will be fine. REPEATEDLY. Obviously if it only takes us a snap of finger to decide, it means we know what we are doing.

Accept the kindness really. Just say thank you instead of questioning us. If showing appreciation hurts your ego, just let us do what we want to do and you carry on with other things. Again, there are no wrong decision, just road not taken.”

”Indecisive people – why have you got to make things so complicated? Ever since I can remember, I have been quite independent and organised. I’ve known my likes and dislikes, and have never been afraid to tell people what’s on my mind. My argument is, at least people know where they stand with me. Although some may think I’m pretty blunt about things, I’d like to say I’m just honest.

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As much as I may offend you with my honesty, I’m sorry but that’s just who I am. If I don’t want to go somewhere, I’ll tell you. If I don’t like something, I’ll tell you. I’d much rather be like that than be one of these people who sits on the fence about every fucking thing. I know some people would rather not make a decision because they’re afraid to upset someone. Um hello, take off your rose tinted specs and live in the real world. Here’s 5 things I don’t understand about indecisive people.

1 – Why do you make things difficult?

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I’m a bit of a planning freak when it comes to most things. I like to know where I’m going, when I’m going, how I’m getting there and above all else, what I’m going to be doing. I’ve got to be like that especially as I travel a lot. So if I’m planning a night out or a catch-up, then WHY has it always got to be me who decides on every single thing we do? I mean surely, is it that hard to make your mind up about what you want to do or where you want to go? I know I organise most of what I do because I hate relying on someone. But come on! Can you just make a decision for once in your life?

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2-You Abscond All Responsibility

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The famous lines “I don’t mind” and “I’ll fit in with you” are the top 2 signs you’re an indecisive person. Just NO! Please tell me if you’d rather do something else. What I’d like even better would be if you actually told me what you’d like to do. Stop passing the buck onto someone else.

3 – How Do You Function In Life?

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If you can’t decide where to go or what you film you want to see, how do you function in life? I mean, when it comes to the clothes you wear – have you got to ask someone for their input on that? Surely not?!

4- When they want me to make a decision on a decision

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That probably sounds more complicated than it is. What I mean is, you give a rough idea about what you want to do, but then think it’s far better for someone to make the final decision. Here’s an example – “Shall we go and see ‘Fantastic Beasts‘ at the cinema? I don’t mind seeing something else though if you want to, it’s up to you”. ARGH! That’s as good as saying you want me to decide in the first place. Don’t come across like you’ve got your life together and taking that leap of faith which is so simple, yet you turn the tables in the last second

5- Can’t say ‘yes’ or ‘no’

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“Do you want to go grab something to eat?”. Here’s a clue, the answer is either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Why the hell do indecisive people then reply with ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I don’t mind’. Surely you know whether you’re hungry or whether you want to eat something? All I want to know is do you want to or not? I am certainly not going to make the decision whether you’re going to eat FFS.”

Now it would be simple to just start being more confident and being more firm with your decisions, right? Unfortunately, this is not the case. Indecisiveness is common in introverts, especially those that are women, and it’s mainly due to a trauma response.

And the ignorance and victim complex that extroverts make up is infuriating! It’s funny how extroverts talk shit about us and using it as “honesty” and claim WE are going to get offended, yet they will get offended at every little thing we do!

Extroverts, if you are reading this, do not get offended at what I have to say to you:

I am so sick and tired of you guys constantly policing us on what we say and do! I’m sick of you expecting me to do ALL the decision-making and making everything my responsibility when I’ve done enough of that shit already on my own!

You think WE are annoying just because we’re naturally going through a stress response? You should see how annoying YOU are for bringing up a bunch of bullshit rules and double standards and then making everything our fault if we don’t oblige!

It’s ironic how you guys think that we want you to agree with us, yet when we eventually come up with an answer that took a lot of pressure for us to do so anyway, you get Indecisive people – why have you got to make things so complicated? Ever since I can remember, I have been quite independent and organised. I’ve known my likes and dislikes, and have never been afraid to tell people what’s on my mind. My argument is, at least people know where they stand with me. Although some may think I’m pretty blunt about things, I’d like to say I’m just honest.

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/dont-give-a-shit.gifImage Source

As much as I may offend you with my honesty, I’m sorry but that’s just who I am. If I don’t want to go somewhere, I’ll tell you. If I don’t like something, I’ll tell you. I’d much rather be like that than be one of these people who sits on the fence about every fucking thing. I know some people would rather not make a decision because they’re afraid to upset someone. Um hello, take off your rose tinted specs and live in the real world. Here’s 5 things I don’t understand about indecisive people.

1 – Why do you make things difficult?

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I’m a bit of a planning freak when it comes to most things. I like to know where I’m going, when I’m going, how I’m getting there and above all else, what I’m going to be doing. I’ve got to be like that especially as I travel a lot. So if I’m planning a night out or a catch-up, then WHY has it always got to be me who decides on every single thing we do? I mean surely, is it that hard to make your mind up about what you want to do or where you want to go? I know I organise most of what I do because I hate relying on someone. But come on! Can you just make a decision for once in your life?

https://www.shemedia.com/?utm_source=SMPN

2-You Abscond All Responsibility

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The famous lines “I don’t mind” and “I’ll fit in with you” are the top 2 signs you’re an indecisive person. Just NO! Please tell me if you’d rather do something else. What I’d like even better would be if you actually told me what you’d like to do. Stop passing the buck onto someone else.

3 – How Do You Function In Life?

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If you can’t decide where to go or what you film you want to see, how do you function in life? I mean, when it comes to the clothes you wear – have you got to ask someone for their input on that? Surely not?!

4- When they want me to make a decision on a decision

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/why.gifImage Source

That probably sounds more complicated than it is. What I mean is, you give a rough idea about what you want to do, but then think it’s far better for someone to make the final decision. Here’s an example – “Shall we go and see ‘Fantastic Beasts‘ at the cinema? I don’t mind seeing something else though if you want to, it’s up to you”. ARGH! That’s as good as saying you want me to decide in the first place. Don’t come across like you’ve got your life together and taking that leap of faith which is so simple, yet you turn the tables in the last second

5- Can’t say ‘yes’ or ‘no’

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“Do you want to go grab something to eat?”. Here’s a clue, the answer is either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Why the hell do indecisive people then reply with ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I don’t mind’. Surely you know whether you’re hungry or whether you want to eat something? All I want to know is do you want to or not? I am certainly not going to make the decision whether you’re going to eat FFS.This is probably off topic but I need to discuss it anyway. It seems as if introverts (especially women) are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. It’s not uncommon to hear a bunch of loudmouths complain about how much they hate indecisive people. What’s worse is that they get supported without taking any consideration over what it’s actually like to have indecisiveness. They act like people who are indecisive “deserve to get shit on” because they apparently are harming others.

Here are some examples of the introvert hatred:

”Nothing is worse than waiting on indecisive people. I'll take assholes and cheapskates over them every day if it means we at least get to the fuckin point. Indecisive people have this succubus-like quality to hold you emotionally and spiritually hostage.

So enter one such energy vampyr with a few friends. Everyone is quick to order drinks, but she starts hemming and hawing. She says she wants tea but not sure what flavor, so I bring over some hot water and start listing them off. Not good enough. "Jasmine Green Tea? Is it very caffeinated?" Oh brother. Now she wants to know the brands and see the tea boxes.

With pleasure. I walk her over to the tea shelf and instruct her to grab whichever bag she wants. She starts to ask me another question, but I slink off to take care of more pressing shit.

She corners another server and peppers her with a bunch of dumb questions. Eventually, she makes up her mind on Earl Grey. My coworker comes to me in shock, "I just clocked in. I was not ready for that."

I see this neurotic mess gesticulating wildly as she and her friends are looking over the menu. I stupidly walk over and ask if they have any questions, and boy does she ever. She can't decide what she wants, what goes with what, what sides can change with who, etc. Fuckin Willy Wonka. I tell them I'll give them more time.

So first all the friends close their menus to signal they're ready to order. Ms. Indecisive is still open, and she's still not ready. This goes on for another 15 minutes. Eventually, the menus are stacked, and some of the friends are starting to look hangry. It eventually takes me pressing on her to make up her mind. "Go with your first instinct! You said you wanted the quiche, take it!" etc.

She finally orders. Everyone looks relieved. "What kind of toast did you want?"

She runs her hands through her hair. "Oh no, the toast... I forgot about the toast."

"Come on, we're almost there," I say, growing frustrated.

She laughs nervously, "Oh, you must hate people like me."

"Oh, you're killin it, top 95%-tile!" I say with a smile. Get a chuckle out of the table, but she eventually makes up her mind.

But holy hell, that shit is like pulling teeth. Please make up your fuckin minds. This is brunch, not the Geneva Conventions.

Hate it when people suck up your time and attention with their neuroticism. Only thing worse is people who call into a restaurant to order takeout without a menu. "So what do you have?" Clearly less free time than it would take for you to look up the menu online.”

”Indecisiveness can become annoying

Decision making is a skill. It is an acquired art and it comes from our experiences. When it’s ok to be indecisive sometimes, it’s not ok to be annoying.

I am a very patience person. I have a very high threshold to bullshit but once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. It’s ok to ask, rather than doing the wrong thing, it’s ok to ask for opinion.

And here comes the but.

But if you are not going to listen to other people, then don’t bother asking. If all you want is someone to agree with you, just tell us what you think and carry on with it.

Honestly speaking, there’s no wrong decision. There’s just always road not taken. Then regret comes. Then the ‘I should have listened to you’ comes along. And then yea, usually the cycle repeats itself. And yea, it’s annoying. It’s very annoying.

Some people are born to be indecisive. I get it. But don’t be annoying. If someone has decided to help you or to make a decision for you, do not, I repeat DO NOT comment. Or even try to say anything about it.

We are not doing it out of kindness. We just hate indecisiveness and we hate to be wishy washy. If a decision only takes 5minutes or less, but the process takes up a whole lot of our time, we will just do it. We don’t like wasting time. We have a lot more on our plates than listening to you, whining about to do or not to do?

Also, instead of going, isn’t this going to cause this. Or isn’t that going to happen, just let us be. We hate saying it will be fine. REPEATEDLY. Obviously if it only takes us a snap of finger to decide, it means we know what we are doing.

Accept the kindness really. Just say thank you instead of questioning us. If showing appreciation hurts your ego, just let us do what we want to do and you carry on with other things. Again, there are no wrong decision, just road not taken.”

”Indecisive people – why have you got to make things so complicated? Ever since I can remember, I have been quite independent and organised. I’ve known my likes and dislikes, and have never been afraid to tell people what’s on my mind. My argument is, at least people know where they stand with me. Although some may think I’m pretty blunt about things, I’d like to say I’m just honest.

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/dont-give-a-shit.gifImage Source

As much as I may offend you with my honesty, I’m sorry but that’s just who I am. If I don’t want to go somewhere, I’ll tell you. If I don’t like something, I’ll tell you. I’d much rather be like that than be one of these people who sits on the fence about every fucking thing. I know some people would rather not make a decision because they’re afraid to upset someone. Um hello, take off your rose tinted specs and live in the real world. Here’s 5 things I don’t understand about indecisive people.

1 – Why do you make things difficult?

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/angry.gifImage Source

I’m a bit of a planning freak when it comes to most things. I like to know where I’m going, when I’m going, how I’m getting there and above all else, what I’m going to be doing. I’ve got to be like that especially as I travel a lot. So if I’m planning a night out or a catch-up, then WHY has it always got to be me who decides on every single thing we do? I mean surely, is it that hard to make your mind up about what you want to do or where you want to go? I know I organise most of what I do because I hate relying on someone. But come on! Can you just make a decision for once in your life?

https://www.shemedia.com/?utm_source=SMPN

2-You Abscond All Responsibility

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The famous lines “I don’t mind” and “I’ll fit in with you” are the top 2 signs you’re an indecisive person. Just NO! Please tell me if you’d rather do something else. What I’d like even better would be if you actually told me what you’d like to do. Stop passing the buck onto someone else.

3 – How Do You Function In Life?

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If you can’t decide where to go or what you film you want to see, how do you function in life? I mean, when it comes to the clothes you wear – have you got to ask someone for their input on that? Surely not?!

4- When they want me to make a decision on a decision

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/why.gifImage Source

That probably sounds more complicated than it is. What I mean is, you give a rough idea about what you want to do, but then think it’s far better for someone to make the final decision. Here’s an example – “Shall we go and see ‘Fantastic Beasts‘ at the cinema? I don’t mind seeing something else though if you want to, it’s up to you”. ARGH! That’s as good as saying you want me to decide in the first place. Don’t come across like you’ve got your life together and taking that leap of faith which is so simple, yet you turn the tables in the last second

5- Can’t say ‘yes’ or ‘no’

https://unitedbypop.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/no-but-yeah.gifImage Source

“Do you want to go grab something to eat?”. Here’s a clue, the answer is either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Why the hell do indecisive people then reply with ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I don’t mind’. Surely you know whether you’re hungry or whether you want to eat something? All I want to know is do you want to or not? I am certainly not going to make the decision whether you’re going to eat FFS.”

Now it would be simple to just start being more confident and being more firm with your decisions, right? Unfortunately, this is not the case. Indecisiveness is common in introverts, especially those that are women, and it’s mainly due to a trauma response.

And the ignorance and victim complex that extroverts make up is infuriating! It’s funny how extroverts talk shit about us and using it as “honesty” and claim WE are going to get offended, yet they will get offended at every little thing we do!

To all extroverts reading this and acting the way you do: You are NOT the main character! I am so fucking sick and tired of you pushing us around and making everything our fault! We are tired, we’ve had enough decision-making for ourselves without you coming around and making things worse!

It’s Ironic how you think we want you to agree with us, yet when we come up with a response that took a lot of pressure for us to do so anyway, you get pissed and throw a fit going “no no no! I don’t want THAT!”. Then you make it out fault by saying WE came to you and asked you, except you ignored the fact that YOU came up to us uninvited and demanded us your attention because you’re THAT obsessed with being the center of attention!

You think WE are annoying for being the way we are, naturally reacting to our traumas? You should see how annoying YOU are when you’re constantly acting like an entitled little shit when things don’t go your way, acting like we deserve every fucking bit of your bullshit!

Don’t believe us? THIS is what YOU disgusting little cunts sound like:

You can go around and play the fucking victim all you like, how we’re going around making everything so “CoMpLiCaTeD” meanwhile it’s totally acceptable for you guys to go around and sticking your noses in everyone’s business and thinking we’re just begging to be with you!

You claim that our decisions are not wrong and our indecisiveness is our own fault, yet from your entitled attitude, you are proving to us that we have a reason to be wary of ourselves! You extroverts can tell us to just simply say yes or no and “stop being picky!”, yet you frequently override OUR boundaries and cannot take no for an answer! Here’s a double standard: when we have limits, we’re “picky”, yet it’s okay for YOU to do it because it’s “setting boundaries”.

Quit your bullshit, take a good look in the mirror, and leave us introverts alone!