The Boy Child Is Bleeding. He Needs a Mama.

Mama, I could not sleep last night because of the silent struggles of the boy child echoing in my head.

Listen to some of there stories/ pain.

A young fintech expert, known worldwide and in Nigeria, was recently criticized and removed from his CEO/CFO position in a well-known fintech company because of gross sexual misconduct.

A social media sensation and content creator took his own life a few months ago. Before his death, he wrote that it was too much for him to bear. The weight, the expectations, the pressure he could no longer carry it. Many read his words only after he was gone.

An Indian boxer won a trophy and dedicated it to his friend who died just days before the match. His friend also took his own life because the pain he was carrying was too much, and he had no safe place to talk about it or share it.

Some months ago, I went to visit a male friend just to say “hi” on my way to see my elder sister and found him drowning in depression. He was on medication, tired, and saying he felt old, even though he was only in his early 40s.

This was a young man people would call a brain box. He focused on books 24/7 while growing up. He was never taught about emotions, failure, relationships, or asking for help. He was trained to succeed but not taught how to live.

Just last night before this post, a friend called me and opened up about the challenges he is facing. He told me he has started selling illegal/hard drugs and does not regret it.

Why I asked? Because they have judged him for too long.

They keep telling him to “have faith,” but faith does not pay bills. They keep demanding a lot from him.

He has a mother to take care of.

Responsibilities are waiting.

Hunger does not listen to motivation.

Same yesterday, one of my mentees was complaining of how two young children under 12 years went to remove and stole church window luwas( dont know the spelling anymore and went to sell. They were brought to the Pastor who happens to be my Mentees Dad and these kids kept lieing even when it was there parents that brought them to confess when they saw the luvas the next morning, and there children taking it to sell...

These are just a few of the real-life stories I am hearing..

Our boys are growing, some in the system already, some are the men we are praying not to get married to, equipping our girls against, feminist on the rise against some of there bullies etc but mama, so many are bleeding.

Majority are bleeding.

So many are dying quietly.

So many are drowning in silence.

It started from childhood. Pressure.. Pressure keep rising.. Silence.. bleedings....

Globally, men account for the majority of suicide-related deaths, yet they are the least likely to seek help. In many homes, especially in our societies, boys are taught to be strong not whole. They are taught to provide not to process pain. They are told to endure, to man up, to keep quiet.

And when the pressure becomes too much, it spills out in broken ways violence, addiction, misconduct, self-destruction, or complete emotional shutdown.

This is why safe spaces matter.

Safe spaces where boys can speak without being mocked.

Safe spaces where pain is not seen as weakness.

Safe spaces where boys are allowed to cry, to fail, to heal.

If you are called for the boy child, please step forward and do your job.

Not later. Now.

Boys, men are bleeding.

Thank you to all the Mamas doing there work. We need more mamas.

We need whole humans, as my sister @Bolu said in her own post sharing same worries.

We need empowered girls but we also need emotionally equipped boys.

Because if we raise strong girls without healing broken boys, we have failed the system.

Voices must rise for the boy child in 2026.

Because Mama, the boy child is bleeding.

And sometimes, what he needs most is not judgment but a mama, a community, and a safe place to for them to breathe.

Mama, boys are bleeding...